More Harry then Sally

1. Men and women can be "just friends"
Marnie Hanel of Tango magazine says, "Sure, men and women can be friends -- as long as the dynamic falls into one of four categories: 1) the friends explore their, ahem, benefits -- and realize that they like each other better with their clothes on; 2) one of the parties is gay; 3) there are significant others involved and romantic -- and sexual -- needs are taken care of at home; 4) you’re just not that into each other -- in that way." (copy and pasted from YAHOO)

First let us define "friends" - someone with whom you feel you can be completely upfront and honest, someone who you can trust unconditionally, someone who feels the same toward you.

Let us take these one at a time shall we (cue crackling knuckles) - 1) If you went there once, you will want to go again at some other time. If you want to go there again, you cannot be honest with her like you would be with a guy friend (example: say buddy, do you have any of that crab shampoo left?) 2) If one party is gay, does it really count as a man/woman friendship? If you have someone as the opposite sex as a "friend", one of the complicating factors is the aspect of talking about wanting to be with people they are not interested in having sex with. That does not exist if the friend is gay (in the aspect of gender and not personal preference) 3) Like having a "friend" as defined above would not interfere with the relationship with the significant other. (Honey, I am going to be late, I got fired today but Jenny here at work said she would take me out and help me forget about it. Love you.) 4) Guys generally do not hang out very much with women they have zero sexual interest in unless they are forced to, and even then...